Six Sex Toys For Trans Folx: Say That Seven Times Fast.
We’re sex-positive here at QueerDoc. Just as we think that there is no one way to be trans, we also think that there’s no one way to be sexual. As our bodies change with time, or with hormones, or both, so can the things that turn us on and get us off. And that can be both frustrating and awesome: bodies change, nerve pathways change, emotions can change, and how our brains work can change. It can be a lot to navigate. So we encourage an open mind and a curious bent: it’s a whole new world for you in your body, try something new. We’re not just sex-positive, we’re toy-positive. If a tool can help us get to know ourselves better, we’re all for it.
We’ve talked to a lot of trans folx about how they’re having sex, and we are thankful for all of those conversations: we learn new things about sex, too! Some of the great things we learn about are the toys and techniques that seem to work for a lot of people.
Without much further ado, we’re here today to spread the news about toys that can do a trans body good:
And Super Important:
Don’t forget the LUBE. Or, if any combination of you and your partner(s) could get pregnant, CONTRACEPTION. (AND YES people on hormones can get pregnant and can get other people pregnant. Gender-affirming medications (HRT) are NOT birth control.)
But which lube?
We’re fans of Smitten Kitten’s Hassle-Free Guide To Lubricants for choosing a lube.
TIP: Some lubes can’t be used with some materials. Check the info for your toy for recommended types of lube.
For Folx On T: Suction Toys
For many people taking testosterone, one of the more personal body changes (and least discussed, at least compared to hair and voice changes) is bottom growth. Savvy toy makers have created products that use suction to hold the toy on to your growth and enable you to masturbate using a stroking motion. Strokers are available in realistic and not-so-realistic designs.
REVIEW From An Anonymous User at QueerDoc: Strokers
So you want to buy a stroker, but how do you pick which one? The truth is I don’t know, either. I haven’t found one I would recommend. The good news is that I’ve tried several, and can tell you what I’ve experienced. The bad news is I don’t actually remember their names or who makes them! But in general, here’s how it went for me:
I think comparatively, I am on the smaller side in terms of bottom growth, and let’s just say the topography of the situation makes insertion a challenge. So I went looking for the silicone stroker with the smallest holes. They were still too big for me. Maybe this is the whole problem, and maybe if you have more growth or meta, you will have more success. But even with my size and shape, there were some things I learned.
The first is that I vastly preferred a blind-ended stroker to an open-ended one. The open-ended ones (like a tube) don’t create any suction. At least for me, I think that’s key. With a blind end, you can squeeze, pump, and pop as you please. Way more interesting.
The second is texture. Too smooth is just boring. Ridges or nubs or whatever, just something.
The last is that I think it’s important to get the right firmness of silicone. There were some that were super hard, and it was just a bulky and unpleasant feeling. There were some that were too soft, which didn’t really hold up to more vigorous use. I think somewhere in the middle is just right- soft enough to have some give but firm enough to take a beating. It’s also important in terms of the suction- soft enough to create the suction, but firm enough to not collapse.
Some stroker options:
TIP: GenderCat allows you to choose interior texture, the diameter of the opening, and the color.
Suction Toys for More Than Masturbation
Combo Toys! The principle is the same, but the toy is designed with enough firmness for penetration. Two examples are the Gendercat GenderMender prosthetic paired with a fascination sleeve and a PeeCock Pleasure Rod combined with a PeeCock.
The PeeCock combo is an example of a 4-in-1 toy: multiple uses, one toy. Not all of them utilize suction to hold on to the body (and provide sensation.)
One of our QueerDoc reviewers has this to say:
Today I’m reviewing two 4-in-1 (pack, STP, play, pleasure) penis prosthetic devices. I chose the Gen4 6.5 inch by PeeCock and the Traditional 6.5 inch 4-in-1 by FreeToM Prosthetics*. I chose these because they are two of the more affordable ones, especially since the FreeToM device was on sale!
Okay, first the Traditional 6.5 inch 4-in-1 by FreeToM Prosthetics.
Overall, I’d say I’m not super impressed by this cock. The silicone feels really thick and bulky, and the coloring gives it a very artificial look. There’s no way I could wear this as a packer, it’s just too big and firm. As an STP, it’s okay, but a little prone to overflow leakage. I will also add here that I am an STP novice, so that doesn’t help. Also, the scrotum/balls are just too large and firm, making it really uncomfortable to wear, particularly while sitting. For play, this device comes with a flexible rod that inserts into the shaft. It’s hollow, so theoretically you could “pack hard” with this, be able to pee, and also play with a seamless transition, which is pretty cool. However, during sex or masturbation, I find the rod to be squeaky and too flexible, actually. And for whatever reason, my anatomy is not sufficiently stimulated by the “pleasure slide,” so overall just not the device for me. The one good thing about it- it’s thick, which my partner really likes. Even though I didn’t have a great experience with this device, I do think there are some great things about FreeToM. First, they sell products with slight imperfections at deeply discounted prices, and they also have good sales frequently. Also, they do have higher-end options that are advertised to be less bulky and more comfortable, with more “pleasure” ridges. If those claims are true, I can see this being a great item for a reasonable price, particularly if you get a slightly imperfect one. And maybe if you opt for a smaller length, it would be possible to pack with it.
Okay, on to the Gen4 6.5 inch by PeeCock:
Overall, I’d say this is a great cock for the price. It has layered silicone of different consistencies, giving it somewhat of a skin-slide effect and just a more natural feel overall. The coloring is decent, but still very uniform and so not too realistic. The scrotum is somewhat squishy, and the balls are more firm, so you can feel them. However, it’s still a far cry from feeling or moving like bio genitals. This is also a downside in terms of comfort as a packer- the scrotum is too bulky and can be uncomfortable with prolonged wear. As a packer, it is also just too big for my taste, so maybe a smaller length would be advisable. As an STP, I think it’s really good. The part that touches you is soft, and there is an internal lip to help prevent overflow. It takes some practice, but overall pretty simple to use. For sex and masturbation, I think this is a great product. It comes with a hollow plastic flex rod like the FreeToM, but there is an option for a silicone 2-in-1 pleasure rod that is not noisy, is adequately firm, and has a very soft silicone base that works well (with my anatomy, anyway). You can also pick the shape of the base, so you can pick the one that most appeals to you. For masturbation, the layered silicone is really fun, particularly when lubed. The one negative thing I’ll say about playing with this device is that the pleasure rod is a little too thin, so there was excessive sliding between it and the shaft. I’m not recommending anyone else do this with their product, but I modified mine with some medical tape (like a tennis racket handle) and it worked great. The shaft is also stretchy enough that you can put a vibrator in it. I put a pulse vibrator in it, which has options of pulse for me and vibration for my partner as well. Super fun! Overall I would recommend this product without hesitation, particularly as an entry-level product.
The last thing I will add is just a handy list of some of the top makers, since I wish I had this list when I was researching: Emisil, FreeToM, Banana Prosthetics, PeaCock, ReelMagik, Transthetics. Googling “best penis prosthetics” works pretty well, too (though PeeCock isn’t one of the first results.)
*QueerDoc note: since this publication, we received a report of difficulty communicating with FreeTom Prosthetics about some shipping and delivery issues.
Other Than Suction, But No Harness: The Joystick by Transthetics
The Joystick, formerly known as the Bono, is a prosthetic penis sleeve that fits over a wand vibrator which fits into underwear. For individuals who don’t want a harness, the Joystick is an option that has gotten a lot of love.
You may already be a follower of Chase Ross on YouTube. Chase has reviewed the Joystick no less than three times! Here’s the third review:
Talkin’ About Vibes: There’s Magic in a Wand
Vibrations generally feel good, and many vibe toys can go just about anywhere (reminder: anal toys should have a flared base!)
The Magic Wand is a time-tested favorite for many reasons, not just for reach (it’s long!) or power (BUZZ!) but for focused rumbly vibrations. Wand vibrators can be especially useful for anatomies with diffuse nerve endings or deeper-set nerves…
…Like Folx On E.
For this review, we’ll refer you to a great write-up by Ana Valens at DailyDot. Ana discusses differences between the classic Magic Wand, the Magic Wand rechargeable, and the newer Le Wand and how all three work with the sexual nerve anatomy of bodies on E. And, she links to other reviews, so you can do virtual research before you do some more immediate research.
What About The Taint?
If we dare continue the magic theme, the taint can be a magical wonderland for play. What’s a “taint”? The taint is the perineum – the area between the anus and the more forward genitals. The skin here is thin and sensitive, and the tissue underneath – like most of the genital region – is highly vascularized and home to nerve endings and deeper nerve pathways. The pudendal nerve travels through the pelvis and branches into the dorsal, perineal, and rectal nerves. The dorsal nerve travels forward to the front genitals. The perineal nerve branches out towards the skin and internally towards pelvic muscles. The rectal nerve travels back to the anus and rectum. All of these nerves are in close proximity in the perineum.
So try out that wand on your taint. Or, if those vibrations are too much, a less rumbly or less powerful toy can be employed. We’re oh, so, intrigued by the Vibe Pad.
Let’s Not Forget Your Spot!
You may call it your P-Spot or your G-Spot – the prostate and other secondary sex glands remain active on E and can be a source of great fun. The prostate is located just below the bladder in front of the rectal wall. If you’ve had a vaginoplasty, you can stimulate your spot through your vaginal wall. If you’ve not had vaginoplasty, you can reach it rectally. Prostate massagers are designed to reach and stimulate the prostate, and often are beautifully curvy and swirly.
All of our bodies are different, and we can’t predict how they’ll change on hormones. We are thankful for so many options trans folx have to explore and enjoy their bodies, however they may want to.